Yesterday, I had the privilege of mediating between two people who had not sat in a room and spoken to each other for more than four years.

What do you say to even begin to scratch the surface of such a situation?

Many things were said. Thankfully, most of them were helpful to hear and will bring lasting benefit to all concerned.

I shared some of my own experiences and tried to encourage them both to “Forgive and Live” otherwise what is the alternative?

The fact that the three of us were in the same room told me that they would actually prefer a better future than the recent past.


There comes a time when you simply have to let go of all the…stuff. The stuff that clogs your life up like putrid waste material clogs a neglected drain.

There comes a time when of course, answers to your questions would be welcomed – albeit with closed arms – and only then, could you imagine yourself maybe, just maybe, embracing the one who offended you so badly.

But in times like these – maybe even most of the time, the answers are buried way too deep below the said waste material and to dig it all up is simply not going to help anyone – even you.

All that is required is total forgiveness.

Without any answers.

Even without an apology.

Sometimes the offender doesn’t even realise the magnitude of what they have done and so forgiveness is simply you doing business with yourself and God, if you believe in him.


As someone once perfectly said, “Forgiveness is releasing the other person and realising it is you who is now free.”






Paul Hatcher

I am at heart, a communicator. I love to use words, whether written or spoken and maximise those words to hopefully, bring some encouragement - literally, to put courage into the hearts & minds of those who read or hear them. In my work as an executive coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, I love also to listen...deeply, and then respond with some encouragement.