It will come as no surprise to you I’m sure, that angry men are more likely to die of things such as heart attacks than men who do not get angry quite so easily. A social science survey published in America this week revealed that over a thirty-five year period, the research carried out involving more than 1,300 men concluded that those who agreed with the statement that they “get angry fairly easily” were considerably more likely to die earlier than those who were least angry.
Like I said, it is not rocket science. Unrestricted, unresolved anger is clearly never a good method of managing our emotions.
I once worked for someone who “blew hot and cold” so often throughout any given day that I could have been forgiven for thinking he had some uncontrollable shock of pain that would shoot through his veins on a completely random basis. One minute he would be congratulating me for securing a big sale, and almost literally the next, he would be berating me or anyone else within earshot for failing to take care of a particular detail that did not normally fall within my remit.
It got so bad that I began looking for another job. Then one day, we were having a working lunch and he had to clasp his chest in panic and obvious pain. I honestly thought I was going to witness a death right before my eyes. It was definitely some form of cardiac arrest and he was later diagnosed with diabetes.
During my search for a new job, I went over to the photo-copier one day to secure details of a position I wanted to apply for. As I lifted up the cover, someone had left a document there by mistake. It was a letter from the Angry Man aka my M.D. in his handwriting to a customer but signed by him…as M.D. of a DIFFERENT COMPANY to the one we were working for at the time! No wonder he was often away for days at a time and attempting to run things via extremely volatile telephone conversations to me and other key members of staff.
I have no idea whether this man is still alive or dead by now. One thing is for sure however: running two companies (one as a moonlighter), screaming at anyone who gets in your way or doesn’t agree with your opinion, demanding the respect that a “Managing Director of an international company” is entitled to when confronted with a perceived lack of good service, and consuming copious amounts of unhealthy food and alcohol are obviously not ingredients for long living.
What did I do with the letter I found you may well be asking? I handed it to the Big Boss who would come over once a month or so from Switzerland and let him deal with it. He was one of the calmest men I’ve ever worked for, was nearing retirement and in perfect health.
If you have never watched the classic film, 12 Angry Men, you may not want to look at the spoiler clip below but either way, it is a brilliant piece of acting that perfectly demonstrates what unresolved anger will do to a person over the long term.