Having had my own fair share of rejection, I have come to believe that one of the best methods of opposing the sometimes relentless feelings that follow hard on the heels of whatever bad news has landed on your lap is simply this:
Their rejection of me (or my work) is merely their own opinion.
And it can hardly work (excuse the pun) any other way in truth can it?
But it means you have to make a choice.
You can choose to be identified by their opinion and feel rejected, say you’ve been rejected, be rejected and ultimately remain rejected.
Or, you can recognise it for what it is…
Someone else’s opinion – of which they are entitled to.
But it doesn’t mean they are right or more importantly, that what they have said or decided is the truth, the final word on who you are, or how good your work is.
You may well have heard about the now infamous rejection letters that JK Rowling received when she first tried to gain some interest in her Harry Potter story. Pity the agents and publishers who turned her away I say.
Pity even more, in some ways, the poor people who rejected her more recently, when she submitted her first crime novel, The Cuckoo’s Calling under the pseudonym Robert Galbraith, Mercifully for them at least, the actor who reads out their letter of rejection to her does not mention their name at the end. Needless to say, the book was eventually taken on and sold over one million copies and is being adapted into a BBC drama series.
So, the next time you are “rejected” for a job, or dumped by a partner, or your latest piece of artistic genius doesn’t make it past the first hurdle, remember, it is merely their opinion.