How to Deal with People Judging You

“I’m not interested in who judges me, God will judge me one day. That’s the only thing I’m interested in. What other people say about me, I couldn’t be less interested in.”

This is what Jurgen Klopp, said recently during a press conference, after being asked what he thought about being judged on how many trophies he may or may not win at Liverpool Football Club.

As you know, I am interested in football and the various lessons we can learn from it.  I have loved watching Liverpool since I was  a young boy. Now I find myself not only enjoying their highly entertaining brand of football but also loving the things that their manager, Jurgen Klopp, says at press conferences.

What I love the most however, is the way he treats his players, staff and the incredibly loyal, passionate fans.

He is famous for his exuberant celebrations, his sprints down the length (and on one occasion across the pitch) in order to embrace his ‘boys’ who play their hearts out for him, week in, week out. I think he acts like a wonderful father towards his players, who looks for any and every opportunity to celebrate what his children have achieved. He alway protects them, even when they make a mistake. He never exposes them or publicly rebukes them, unlike how Jose Mourinho would often do…before he got fired.

He does not deny that he will be judged. He doesn’t deny there is pressure in a high profile position like his. His secret I believe, is he doesn’t let it get to him because that is not where he places his focus.

“For me, it’s no pressure (to win trophies), it’s only opportunity.”

So my question to you as you think about this is: How do you think God (or any other word you may choose to use) will judge you? And then, how can you allow that knowledge to liberate you from the fear of judgement that may and often does come from your fellow human beings?

 

“Play for the love of winning, not for the fear of losing.”

“Play for the love of winning, not for the fear of losing,” was how the Mexico football team’s coach, Juan Carlos Osorio summed up his team’s performance after beating Germany in the World Cup this week.

As soon as I heard that, I wrote it down – knowing instantly that there was a lot to be said about that quote alone.

If you substitute ‘play’ for ‘live’ then I think there is something to seriously consider.

The Mexico team went into their match with Germany with a very specific plan that they believed could be enough to win. without getting into footballing technicalities, the emphasis was on speed and attack, not on concentrated defence.

I have written in the past about how Safe is Risky especially when a tennis player for example, is facing an opponent who is much higher up the world rankings and overall, is of course, a better player. The only way to win for the lower ranked player or team in the case of Mexico, is to play to their strengths, go for their shots, be as fast as they can, and maybe, just maybe, they might surprise the other player/team so much and go on to win the match.

Many people have faced mountains in their lives and continue to face them daily. They get up, keep going and finally overcome.

It is a mental as much as a physical thing of course. More so in fact. It is widely acknowledged in the sporting world (especially in individual sports) that the player with the strongest mental condition will almost invariably win out. It is only this that causes one to triumph in spite of the enormous mental pressure being thrown at you.

As it is in life.

So, whatever you are facing today, tomorrow, next month or next year, “Live for the love of winning not the fear of losing.”