Why We Fail…

Published by Paul Hatcher on

Yesterday I read a really good post from someone who emails me regularly. In fact, he is the man who introduced me to Mike Seddon’s Last Webinar which I later wrote about Click Here if you missed it the first time.

Here is an excerpt from the post written by Dov Gordon and if you want to find out more about him, you can Click Here.

There are two types of failure:

TYPE A:  You try.  You fail.  You learn from it.  You try again.  This isn’t really failure.  This is Learning and Growing.

TYPE B:  You try.  You fail.  You don’t learn from it.  Or you learn the wrong lessons.  THIS is Failure:  Trying to make the unworkable work.

The hard part is this:  When you’re in the thick of it, with muddy boots, a scratched up face and torn coat, it can be hard to tell if you’re Learning or Failing.

So here are some of observations from my own experiences both Learning and Failing to help you do more of the former and less of the latter.

– When you pride yourself based on who you associate with, you’re Failing.
– When your pride flows from an Inner Knowing that you’re doing what you should do when you should do it, you’re Growing.

– When you’re trying to be the person other people expect you to be, you’re probably Failing.
– When you’re slowing down and figuring out what you really want first, you’re Growing.

– When you’re looking for the Right Way to Succeed, you’re probably Failing.
– When you’re studying the principles to understand why things work when they do and don’t when they don’t, you’re Learning.

– When you’re worried that you are inadequate in some important way, you are Failing.
– When you know that the mind game is to see how far you’ve come – and not how far you still need to go – then you’re Learningfailure-is-not-the-end-of-your-world-its-the-start-1433789114-7424

– When you compare yourself to someone who’s been in the game much longer than you, you’re Failing.
– Again, when you compare yourself to where you’ve been yesterday, you’re Growing.

– When you expect it should be easy, when you seek ease over excellence, comfort over mastery – you’re Failing.
– When you expect to be challenged, to be chewed up and spit out a few times before you conquer that next hill… you’re Learning.

– When you’re trying to make big leaps, you’re probably Failing.
– When you’re putting one foot in front of the other, setting targets you believe are achievable and pursuing them relentlessly,  you’re Growing.

– When you’re trying to do it all yourself, you’re probably Failing.
– When you surround yourself with people who are on the same path as you and you learn from each other and hold each other to a higher standard, you’re Growing.

– When you believe the talking heads on Bloomberg TV, you’re probably Failing.
– When you ignore them and believe those who have done what you want to be doing, you’re Learning.

– When you avoid conversations that make you uncomfortable, you’re probably Failing.
– When you take a deep breath and confront people with respect, you’re Growing.

– When you think the problem is your wife, you’re Failing.
– When you realize you’re probably guilty of the same and more, you’re Learning.

– When you take responsibility for things you can not control, you’re probably Failing.
– When you take full responsibility for the things you can control, you’re Growing.

– When you fear man and forget God, you’re Failing.
– When you remember that you are here to serve God by helping your fellow man, you’re Growing.

– When you hold others to a higher standard than you hold yourself, you’re Failing.
– When you hold yourself to a higher standard than you hold others, you’re Learning.

– When you’re busy, busy, busy and not making time to think deeply about what you really, really want… you’re Failing.
– When you regularly make time to reflect.  To think.  To ponder.  To question… you’re Learning.

And the greatest gift is to become aware of them, so we can learn the lessons and keep on moving.


Paul Hatcher

I am at heart, a communicator. I love to use words, whether written or spoken and maximise those words to hopefully, bring some encouragement - literally, to put courage into the hearts & minds of those who read or hear them. In my work as an executive coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, I love also to listen...deeply, and then respond with some encouragement.