As I wrote three weeks ago, you can learn a lot from TV dramas. One of our favourites in recent years has been Unforgotten.
Without going into background details, (and don’t worry, no spoilers here!) if you have never seen it, I thoroughly recommend starting with Season 1 and going from there.
In the latest season, I witnessed by far, the most perfectly written example of the following quote:
‘You will never understand the other person unless they reveal themself to you. They will never reveal themself to you unless they trust you. They will never trust you unless they know you.
‘They will never know you…unless you reveal yourself to them.’ Tom Marshall, from his book Right Relationships: How to Create Them & How to Restore Them
To give the scene a bit of context, the two police detectives involved are going through some very difficult personal circumstances but neither of them knows about the other one’s situation. Their individual distractions are causing increasing agitation between them.
The tension culminates when the more senior of the two, DCI Jessica James, completely forgets about some Zoom meetings they were due to have with a number of key witnesses. The other detective, DI Sunil Khan, decides enough is enough and instigates an impromptu meeting to find out what on earth is going on with his boss.
Think about that for a second. That is courage right there isn’t it?
If you want to see a flawless example of how to make yourself vulnerable in the name of being brutally honest and wanting to turn a difficult relationship into something far better, then do please watch this five minute clip below.
You will not regret it, I promise you!
Until next time, be blessed to be a blessing!