The Most Powerful Relationship Tool Ever!

“The other person will never reveal themselves to you unless they trust you. They will never trust you unless they know you. They will never know you unless you reveal yourself to them.” Tom Marshall This is the single most powerful thing you can do if you want to enhance the quality of any relationship. It can be used in a business situation. It can be used between friends. Between lovers, spouses or even relative Read more…

What I Learned from a Traffic Jam…

I have sat in some serious traffic jams in my time. I’m talking about those thankfully rare situations where all plans are scuppered, people are walking up and down the motorway and if it’s a hot day, some are even laying out their picnic, determined to make the most of the seemingly infinite delay. Then you have those traffic jams caused not so much by an accident but a sheer outbreak of extreme weather such Read more…

Why Winning Does Matter

A couple of days ago, I read an article that said how the word “win” finds it roots in both joy and grace. I love that! But what does that really mean or more to the point, what does that even look like? For those of you for whom life is simply one seemingly endless triumphant display of winning, then you probably don’t need to read any further but may I suggest you store this piece Read more…

The Difference Between Life and Death

How many times have you heard the cry, “It’s a matter of life and death!” Not many times hopefully, in real life. Many, many times if, like most people, you’ve seen your fair share of TV and movies. This week, I cannot avoid the subject of when the difference between life and death comes and hits you squarely in the face. The reason? Well, twice in the same week, two major news events very nearly Read more…

Learning to Laugh

I heard on the radio yesterday that children in Bangalore, India are having lessons on how to laugh. Due to the success of these classes, there are even plans to open the world’s first Laughter University. When Dr. Madan Kataria the founder of the now worldwide ‘Laughter Clubs’, opened his first one more than twenty years ago, only four people attended. Affectionately known as the ‘Guru of Giggling’ he is quite possibly the foremost advocate of laughter as Read more…

What’s in a Blue Sky?

One of the things I simply love about this time of the year is being able to sit outside under a beautiful blue sky, with enough sunshine to make me feel pleasantly warm and then to simply think. The phrase “Blue Sky thinking” has been around for some time and has now made it into the Collins English dictionary with the following definition: creative ideas that are not limited by current thinking or beliefs. Most Read more…

Let the Expert Through!

Several years ago, when I was working as a salesman for a company that supplied food wrapping machinery, I found myself in a large produce processing factory with an engineer called Billy. I was there to see how their current stock of machines were doing and explore the possibility of selling them one or two new ones. Billy was there as our referral agent but also on that day, to urgently repair one of the older Read more…

Timing is Everything

Timing is everything or so they say. I have heard this many times and so often I have thought to myself, “Yeah right!” as another opportunity slipped by without tangible explanation. And then today, after a day working in London, and meeting with new contacts, I arrived at Victoria station to a scene of Friday night commuting overload as almost all trains were delayed by “an incident”. When you are faced with this scenario, you Read more…

My Best Mate from School

I was reminded this week what a small world we live in. My eldest son walked into a pub and saw one of those photo collages that you see on the walls sometimes. You know the type – full of faces of regulars from the past and present. Images I would imagine, of trophy-winning football teams, darts triumphs and pool tournament heroes. Imperfect portraits of punters who have invested heavily in the livelihood of whoever Read more…

Memories are Made of This…

Apparently, there are three significant things that begin occurring when you start getting old. You begin losing your memory; you begin losing your hair; and the third thing is…I’ve forgotten! Just to be clear from the outset here, I do not feel like I am getting old, even though I am most certainly, albeit rather reluctantly in the middle-aged category, despite my youthful looks and energy! I have always been fascinated by the things we Read more…